Sorority rush is a tricky thing. Sisters work so, so hard to make it seem natural and spontaneous when you’re in a house, but the truth is that there are months and months of planning that go into that week of events. Speaking as a sister going through it right now, it’s much more intense than it looks. As a rushee, when you only get 10 or 15 minutes to make a good impression on someone you have to realize that how you’ve presented yourself, with your clothes/hair/makeup, will factor into that a lot. How much about someone can you learn from 10 minutes of conversation? I can learn more about you from looking at your outfit for 30 seconds.
Now, my school has a fairly informal rush, but we do ask you to dress a certain way and in different sorts of outfits on different days. The guidelines that potential sisters get are much more vague than the guidelines we get as initiated sisters, but your best bet is to dress how we dress. What we’re told to do is dress like we’re going out to a nice dinner with friends and family–fashion-forward but not too trendy, not frumpy but not overexposed, and dressing it up a little with rich hues, luxe textures, and classy jewelry. The one thing you have to keep in mind is that for most schools, like mine, rush is in winter. It’s COLD, so a cute little sundress won’t cut it when you’re standing outside in the snow. You want to balance the cute and the practical. Here’s what I’d recommend as a formula for a less formal rush.
Juliet & Company Champagne Pearl Stud Earrings, $20: As far as jewelry goes, you don’t want to do anything crazy here that will distract people from you and what you’re trying to convey about yourself. I’d recommend going for a simple pair of posts and maybe a small pendant necklace. I like these earrings because pearl studs are so stereotypical sorority, but this pair is fun because they’re such a flattering shade of pink and slightly oversized and glam.
Joie Bittersweet B Top, $168: Now, on to tops. I’d really skip the skirts and try jeans and a top. You can go two routes here: do a more statement-y top and then just your coat on top, or do a more basic top with a cute little cardigan. For a bolder top, I love this Joie blouse. The red is so classically chic, the ruffles add a sweetly girly twist, and the cut is extremely flattering for almost all body types.
J. Crew Dulphine Bling-Button Cardigan, on sale for $39.99: The deep green cardigan warms it up with a flattering jewel tone, and the bling buttons just scream cuteness. A fitted cardigan like this is great for adding structure to a flowy tank.
J. Crew Vintage Cotton Sunburst Tank, $58: If you want to go the more neutral top route, I love this tank/cardigan pairing. I wouldn’t do a tank without something on top because it’s a dangerous slippy slope into exposed bra straps and equally unclassy things. This top is basic and white, but the sunburst detailing keeps it chic and interesting.
J. Brand High Rise Skinny Jeans, $216: Jeans can be hard. I’d really go for a high-waisted pair here because they’ll suck in any problem areas, and won’t run you the risk of any accidental exposure like low-rise jeans. I like a dark wash and a slim cut because it’s really flattering and the slim cut makes it easier to tuck into boots.
Frye Melissa Button Boots, $318: Boots are a great option because they’re practical for the weather and they immediately make you look a little more dressed up with minimal effort.
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Our rush week is different from yours. Ours is usually held the week before school, so it’s much hotter outside. While the 1st night is casual, almost ALL girls wore dresses. Even with this, I’d say where whatever pleases you. While looking good is great, you want to rush a house that is right for you, in my opinion. For instance, on the last night, one of my pledge class sisters wore converse, a dress, & a hat.But since it will be cold, going your route is the smarter way.
While you should be trying to impress, if a person was judging me based off of a 10 minute conversation on what I wore, I’m not sure I’d like to rush their house. Looks matter, yes. But it shouldn’t matter that much, in my opinion.
hydrangea / 99 posts
As a sorority girl myself, I completely agree with this. Luckily that basically sums up what I wore last year when I rushed. Nice boots (which not only make you look put together but I also found were a conversation starter!), nice jeans, and a cute top that looks like you put a little effort into looking good for rush parties. Cardigans are great too.
Some of my sisters need to work on improving their appearance for events, though. Pisses me off sometimes. I’m trying to make changes! When I went through rush, I appreciated the houses who were somewhat coordinated with their look and dressed up for us. So I think on both ends of rush, look nice for one another! It shows respect & character.
hydrangea / 83 posts
This is so not the case for my school. For my school…it’s hot as BALLS. And we are expected to dress relatively nicely each day and get progressively nicer it’s like this:
Wednesday & Thursday: cute skirt or casual sundress
Friday & Saturday: a more fancy dress, but still a cottony material. Basically, something you could wear to church.
Sunday: Black dress and heels
Bid Night: ALL WHITE DRESSES and ALL WHITE HEELS.
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great suggestions! I wish I had this list when I was rushing!
magnolia / 1042 posts
@HelloKitty0809@xanga - i agree 100% with you on that last paragraph.
how you look should NOT be that important.
lily / 5148 posts
Interesting.
rose / 802 posts
At my university, rush was dresses only – for the most part, zero exceptions.
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I’m about to go through rush and went shopping yesterday for some clothes. You’re right about the cold – i loved the advice on jewelry. I love to accessorize but I’ll remember to keep it understated.
I have a monroe piercing, what do you think that will say to potential houses? I go to a super preppy/fratty smaller(ish) private university, and not many people have any alternative looks (i.e. facial piercings, crazy hair). Mine is super small, and it’s just a small CZ stone. Most people like it, and I don’t dress like the typical person who has a piercing. Will it be okay?
dahlia / 2103 posts
@HelloKitty0809@xanga - I agree…if I find out that someone is that superficial and shallow, I definitely don’t want to be around them.
That being said, I went to a small private college that didn’t have sororities, so I honestly don’t know anything about them (except for what I wikipedia-ed after reading this post). And I’ve gotta say, most of it seems really devoid of substance and sounds more like trying to kiss ass and impress people who honestly probably aren’t as awesome as they make themselves out to be. But that’s just my impression, and I’m a totally against-the-grain kind of person, so that’s probably why I feel that way. It’s just something I wouldn’t do. Unless they started a sorority for musicians, artists, and punk rock chicks. That would be a different story
rose / 802 posts
@HelloKitty0809@xanga - Unfortunately, that’s just not how rush works. If your style is wrong or you’re not dressed nicely enough, you’re not likely to be asked back. Shallow but true.
rose / 802 posts
@jesuisfrancaise@xanga - I would leave it in. If they don’t want you for something that you like & that’s important to you, do you really want to be in their house? If anything, it may help you weed out the houses that won’t be right for you.
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@beebizzle@xanga - Glad someone else thinks the same way.
@needmoreink@xanga - I’m sorry your perception of sorority girls isn’t that great. :/ Just know that not all sororities are that way! My sorority has an eclectic mix of girls that I’m proud to know & be sisters with. It really just depends where you go to school & what sorority girls you know, in my opinion, but almost all sorority girls I’ve come across are very kind.
But hey, you’d totally fit in w/ my sorority from the way you describe yourself.
@SuburbanSweetheart - I see where you’re coming from & agree with being dressed in an appropriate manner when going through rush. At the same time, I don’t think it’s right to judge someone based on how they look in a 10 minute conversation.
“How much about someone can you learn from 10 minutes of
conversation? I can learn more about you from looking at your outfit
for 30 seconds.”
That was my main point when reading this post, but I could have taken it out of context.
rose / 802 posts
@HelloKitty0809@xanga - I *certainly* don’t think it’s right. I just think it’s real. Sororities are notorious for being terribly judgmental, & having been behind the scenes for rush in even a very un-stereotypical sorority, I can confirm that even the kindest, most accepting of sororities are still guilty of this.
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@SuburbanSweetheart - That’s true. Maybe because my sorority was going through a lot of changes I saw a different recruitment setting.
dahlia / 2103 posts
@HelloKitty0809@xanga - Well that’s good to know
Like I said, I really don’t have any experience with them so that’s all it is, a perception. I can’t really form a solid opinion on it because I know how annoyed I get when people form concrete opinions about things they don’t really know anything about. Btw, if that’s you in your profile pic, your hair is freakin’ awesome! Mine was pink-ish last month but I dyed it black and chopped it off. Which is also fun.
cherry blossom / 35 posts
boring.
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why would anyone want to waste their time joining a sorority? I would love other girls to tell me what to do and what to wear. not. even though these are clothes I usually wear, I don’t like how these girls are basically judging other girls on how they look.
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unrelated comment: But i belong to the sorority that is in the picture and got super excited to see it represented on a blog i’ve loved since HS!
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@Sydney I completely agree!
magnolia / 1369 posts
i’m joining a sorority but we don’t go through rushing, our process is much different than mainstream. but whenever we have events i do normally dress up.
@the_simplethings@xanga - i don’t think that it’s a waste of money. to me it’s an investment in my future. i think that you have a negative perception of greek life but not every sorority and/or fraternity is judgmental.
magnolia / 1369 posts
@jesuisfrancaise@xanga - i think you should keep it in. that’s a part of you and honestly i don’t think that it will be a big deal. if the sisters didn’t like it maybe that means that that isn’t a sorority you want to be a part of
magnolia / 1369 posts
@sssecret_x@xanga - i completely agree. i hate when i feel like others members don’t look nice. it’s like what in the world were you thinking? i feel like when one person looks bad it just throws off the momentum of the group as a whole.
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this would be more accurate for spring rush, which is happening soon. so yes, it is weather appropriate. but fall rush is extremely HOT
sunflower / 437 posts
I love living in Britian. Know why? WE DON’T HAVE SORORITIES OR FRATERNITIES. I read this post and still don’t actually know what a ‘rush’ is.